Digging for the Truth
I sent a couple of family members the details I had uncovered about the institution my aunt lived in, the class action lawsuit and the contact information, and so far, no response. I got a message from my brother yesterday and he didn't even mention it. I haven't heard from anyone else but I strongly suspect that nothing has been done to try to find her. This was my fear. That there is too much guilt or shame or the topic itself is just too uncomfortable for anyone to really delve in and try to find her. I don't want to step on anyone's toes but I think I may have to become the lead in this investigation if its to be successful.
I've always loved history. I am addicted to the History Channel (and now History International too); my favorite show at the moment is Digging for the Truth. It doesn't hurt that the host, Josh Bernstein, is h-o-t.
But mostly I gravitate towards the darker stuff. Hitler, Stalin, serial killers. Man's inhumanity to man. I know I'll never understand it, but I want to. This is what happens when you grow up in an extremely dysfunctional household with a mother who is mentally ill. I truly believe she suffers from Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Fun stuff. The sad thing is that she will never get treatment because the hallmark of this disorder is she believes herself to be superior and special. So why fix what isn't broken? Her complete inability to empathize and her pathological lying make it impossible to discuss anything of substance, which is why she just recently found out about my infertility issues. There's way more here to write about, obviously, but that's enough for today.
I'm still struggling mightily with my own thoughts and ideas about my situation. Every time I get to a place where I think I'll be OK with my life the way it is (i.e. without children), I'll hear or read something that makes me think...wait a minute, maybe, just maybe there is still hope for me. Damn you, Holly Hunter!!
posted by Donna @ 11:52 AM
8 Comments:
Wow, I hadn't heard that about Holly. That definitely gives hope to lots of us out there.
I think you (and excuse my assvice) you should take the lead on digging up the truth about your Aunt. If none of your family members bring up the topic with you after your e-mail to them, they can hardly accuse you of stepping on their toes. And it' obviously something that's important to you. At least start it - you can stop at anytime if you no longer feel like going forward.
Yeah, doesn't Holly just take the cake??? But I've always liked her, I happy to hear her news. And this maybe snobish of me, but it helps to ease the sting of Britney... They are on such opposite ends of the spectrum.
I wouldn't be at all surprised if some in your family, especially of the generation ahead of yours, was hoping to keep this swept under the rug. There are some skeletons in my family closet that some in the family have gotten pretty riled up about coming out. Personally, I find that kind of thing incredibly interesting and it makes me feel more grounded to look into family history, find family, understand their history- no matter what it is. I guess maybe it is knowing that I won't have any direct future generations to connect to, at least I can embrace the previous generations. I totally get your desire to get to the bottom of it, I love a good mystery. And it is your aunt. Wow.
Keep us posted!
I think its great that you are taking it upon yourself to dig up the truth. Your Aunt would be proud of you.
Good for Holly! I hadn't heard the news
Even though it is incredibly inspiring that Holly Hunter is having twins at 47, that kind of news sends me into a downward spiral. I so understand.
Good for you--go after all the scoop you can.
I'm a truth-junkie, too. Do you think we should try to get to the bottom of whose eggs Holly bought and sell the info to the Enquirer for 10 mil? Then we could afford to travel the world with Angelina and hand-pick ourselves the most adorable orhpans on the planet (and get lip injections to boot!).
Did I really just say that?
I so understand the Holly Hunter thing. I hate it when I hear about a 42 year old who has a healthy baby after three, four, five, even six miscarriages.
I think. "damn you, just when I was getting to acceptance, you have to go stirring everything up again."
Oh well.
I think the work you are doing to try to find your aunt is wonderful. I am so sorry that your family hasn't taken an active role in assisting you.
As for Holly . . . it must be amazing to have the resources at your disposal to make every effort to successfully have a child. Ahhh, the lifestyles of the rich and famous . . .
I wish you the best of luck finding your aunt. And I truly TRULY hope that when you DO find her, it is a happy day and not heartbreaking. I want so much for her that her years have been good.
Holly Hunter. I don't even know what to say about her.
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